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I may not be an ideal candidate to explain the feeling, but at least I grew up in a society that believed western music, particularly, the prominent American popular culture genre, Hip Hop, is an evil deed and that it should be kept away from the children.

Being an apple eyed child whose father has been exposed to the so-called western education, I didn't have much of the troubles playing tapes of the famous musicians such as Lionel Richie, Marvin Gaye, Diana Ross, Kool and the Gang, and a mixture of UK's and American's Jazz.

Along the way, I developed the hobby of my own, the one that I still share with most of my siblings and friends: being a b-boy, I actually tried to Kris Krossing but at least on that one; my mom Totally Krossed me Out.

B-boy/girl simply means a young boy/girl involved with Hip Hop culture. For those of us grew up in early two triple oh, you understand how hard it was try being one of the two.

As a student a while ago, I had a chance to volunteer in the university’s media outlets. In one of the sessions with Juma Mchopanga, christened “J Moe” one of the legendary Bongo Flava artists in Tanzania he recalled, “In our days, I remember my father while taking me to school, he preferred rerouting to Bagamoyo road along the Morocco area. When the road beggars approached his vehicle for changes, he usually shifted the subject and tell me this is what my future will look like if I choose rap over school”

I’m still in love with Hip Hop and one of my proudest moment was when my friends and childhood classmates referred me as Dr. Dre, one of the prominent figures of Hip Hop community who’s behind the fame of many Hip Hop artists and group such as NWA, Snoop Dog, 2 Pac, Eminem, 50 Cent, The Game, to the likes of Kendrick Lamar and Anderson Paak.

Hip Hop, a genre of popular music developed in the United States by inner-city African Americans and Latino Americans, grew its popularity in early 1980s, and ever since it has become an integral part of the African American culture.

The late 1980s witnessed the rise of sub-genre of Hip Hop music in America's western hemisphere, particularly in California and its neighboring suburb: The Gansterrap now prominent G Funk.

Not only in our societies that children were forbidden to involve themselves with such traditions, even in the America societies where it was born; no parents would love to see his/her kid walking down a street with a boom box radio, sagging pant, verbally battling with one another (freestyling) even when it was just for letting-off some steams.

ALL parents wanted their kids to go to school, graduate with honors, get a job, and find a prince/princess to spend the rest of their life with. So far, things haven’t changed much: most of the parents still embracing this ideal.

Though this model of parenting is not creepy as it sounds, on the other hand, the increasing number of university graduates with no jobs and hopes is taking a toll in our societies. The other day, I happened to sit in the stunning terrace facing the ocean trying to letting-off some steam after a hectic week--I tried so much to concentrate on my drink, but I couldn’t help it than to eavesdropping a conversation between two ladies across the table who looked very disappointed after attending to one of the universities graduation ceremony held in the city.

One of the ladies she quick running at the conclusion that if in a year, “12000 students graduate in one university, then how many are graduating all varsities in the country combined? It’s imperative that parents should not focus on sending their children to colleges if employment is the only solution when they’re graduating”

I tried so much to put a word but­­­—I couldn’t afford to be called a perv—so I had to babysit my drink and pretend like I’ve heard nothing.


Parenting isn’t all about directing, it’s also about learning. Not all of us dreamt to be wall street whizzes—some of us wanted to become music producers/engineers. Hadn’t been the strict nurturing which comes from our parents and guardians, maybe at the end of the tunnel, we would’ve seen the light of a day.

We have individuals like Diamond Platinumz, Ally Kiba, Professor J, Mr. II, Marco Chali, P Funk Majani, and list goes on; who’ve won hearts and minds in every corner of our society not by becoming chartered Accountant, Lawyer, Lecturer, or President.

If we could steer our youngsters to view the world from an outside of the box perspective, no wonder we wouldn’t’ have 2 million unemployed graduates laming to have no jobs because their government failed them.

for instance, despite my affection for music and production, no one back then saw the need to nurture and invest in my talent. Instead, everyone in the family was too busy to become Accountants, lawyers, university professors, and many other white-collar jobs.

We need a paradigm shift in the way we nurture our kids. Not every one of us will have a chance to work in the fortune 500, but if we properly nurture our kids, some of them will be able to build an empire of their own: the case of Diamond Platinumz and his WCB label.

Do you know what would’ve happened if Dr. Dre would accept his mom’s commands for him to leave his Djing and music production career and looking for a decent job?

§ There would be no G-Funk, the sub-genre of Hip Hop music prominent in America’s western hemisphere pioneered by the man himself.

§ There would be no Aftermath Entertainment: the label that was responsible for multiplatinum album sales in Hip Hop and R&B (Slim Shady LP, 2001, Genesis, get rich or die trying, Documentary, the big bang, good kid, m.A.A.d city, and the list doesn’t stop there.)

§ There would’ve been no Ice cube, Snoop Dog, Eminem, 50 cents, The Game, Kendrick Lamar, Anderson. Paak nor the NWA.

§ No Beats by Dr. Dre, the subsidiary of Apple Inc. that produces audio products. On August 1, 2014, Apple acquired Beats for $3 Billion in cash and stock deal, the largest acquisition in Apple’s history comes from the broke and well-determined producer from Compton, the flip side of the eminent California’s Silicon Valley.

§ This is for the Hip-Hop community; if you happen to be a die-hard like me, what would it be like if our playlist lacks hits like California love, no diggity, keep their hands ringing, let me ride, been there, done that, Nuthin’ but a G thang, Gin and juice, in da club, let me blow ya mind, family affair, still dre, how we do it, the list doesn’t stop there.

§ No multi-million recording labels like; ruthless, death Row, shady records, G-units, would only just a dream.

In an interview with Salama Jabil, MJ Record’s chief recording producer, Marco Chali when celebrating his newborn baby, he described how he would’ve wanted his girl to be like when grown up. Not following his producing career but at least exploring many things before decided to embark on whatever she think it’s a dream career.

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